You would have heard the terms :
keeping up with the Jones, and rat race.
Western society is the worst for it!
Keeping up the show, designer head to toe, plastic surgery to look a certain way, going out every night, spending your money to post the picture - all to keep up with the Jones.
Don't get me wrong, you can be doing all that and genuinely want to be doing that and enjoy it. However, I have seen that line get blurred way to often. It becomes well they are doing it, so I want to do it, I want that lifestyle. But are you really enjoying it or are you just keeping up with the Jones?
Are you killing yourself financially and mentally just to live a lavish lifestyle and be suffering?
The rat race. It is a rat race - to wake up, to work, to sleep, and to do it all over again. Make that money, go go go!
When are we actually Living Our Life?...Not someone else's, not slaving away just to have a lot of money. But enjoying the small moments that we will never get back.
I feel like I have spent my whole life picking up shifts, busting my a** to prove myself, and getting stressed out when I am not where I want to be.
I have stopped enjoying the things I used to love because my worked consumed me, it was all I was thinking about, even in moments where I had a break.
Why am I not getting more collabs? Why did my sales for my jewelry line drop? ...and now I have to run to my Full-Time job.
I'm putting in sooo much work, showing up, being consistent, and yet I am not where I want to be or where society says I should be.
I had to have a real check in with myself . I felt like I was so scattered. The hustle that I loved was hurting my mental health. Instagram was giving me anxiety. My jewelry line was not as speedy as it used to be. That I was questioning 24/7. Trying to find solutions.
Don't get me wrong I am not doing it for the money. But when you truely enjoy something you want it to be successful! I felt like I was not successful and my passion was fading, and becoming stress.
They always say you need multiple streams of income. A table with 4 legs ( 4 streams of income) is stronger than a table with 1 leg.
You have to be able to put your health first, then the rest should come.
Yes, I am stressed because they are all things I want to be successful because I love doing all my jobs. However, I want to fall back in love with all of them, that was when I was the most successful.
As for keeping up with the Jones and the rat race most of us are thrown into. I have never felt the need to keep up with the Jones. I do want certain things, but I have a hard time treating myself- however, that is apart of enjoying life! Everything in moderation!
I have felt like I have been in a rat race for a while, that is why I am slowing down, trying to be kinder to my self. It is hard though, especially when I have always been someone who is super hard on myself.
I want to live a full, stress less life, were I am in the moment, and can separate work from the rest of my life. I want to be able to buy that YSL bag and be like I am okay with this purchase, I earned it, and treat myself to a vacation without the guilt of spending that much money.
I think society has taught us to put so much focus on money, making money, you should be hustling, you should be successful. Society also shows you :you should have a lot of money in the bank, and you should be able to be loving a lavish lifestyle... That is so hard to obtain especially in this day and age . I think everything happens in time, when you are consistent, and everyone has their own timeline.
I also feel like you should not feel the need to keep up with the Jones. Either to work your a** off to be able to affordable someone else's lifestyle or be in debt to live someone else's lifestyle,
It is different if you want a certain lifestyle and you are reasonably working towards it. But again, society and social media has set this standard of living and lifestyle that for many is unattainable and unrealistic, especially for the everyday person. Not saying it can not happen, just saying we need to take the pressure off ourselves. Enjoy the life we have been gifted .
You should truly enjoy the lifestyle you currently have or are working towards. However, it is okay to want more but remember to enjoy the present. Do not neglect the present while working towards your future .
Anyways that is my little though, rant, blurb hahahaa...
Let me know how you guys balance it all? If you feel like you are in a Rat Race or ever felt the need to Keep Up with the Jones?
Such an important message.
Its really important to learn to not be too harsh against ourselves.
xx
Margot
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Nothing is more important than balance in life. Of course, if you really want to succeed and have a career of your dreams you have to work hard for it, but rest is super important too. One can't be strong and full of energy all the time, and burnout is something that's hard to battle with. :D
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I feel like that with Instagram sometimes too! It's all about balance for me, and sometimes that means going through phases of focusing on some things more than others.
Eileen | yesmissy.com
Everything in moderation is the best advice. And it is soo helpful as well. Thanks for sharing this. I hope you are having an amazing week. My birthday was yesterday, so it is the best way to get the festive season in gear.
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I think it is so easy to get burned out on the hustle and I feel as I've gotten older, I just don't care as much anymore.
Carrie
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